tropes of perception

Here's the recurring chain of logic the lizard brain seems to engage in:

1. I am different so I am alone
2. I have a biological drive to connect with other people
3. Creating and maintaining connection takes work
4. Connection creates risk -- risk of loss; risk of rejection
5. Risk of loss or rejection due to my badness
6. I feel shame for my badness; I fear loss
7. I want to minimize work and minimize risk